What if I’m Too Short to Date?

I'm Too Short to Date

Does the thought of going on a date leave you hyperventilating and having cold sweats because you are not tall enough?

Then keep on reading. Below you will come across a letter from an anonymous guy who feels depressed because he believes that he’s too short to date — you might be able to relate to his misery.

Let’s take a look at the letter that he sent to me:


I feel so miserable and unwanted because I lack in important inches. No, I’m not talking about that — I’m referring to my actual height.

Unfortunately I am not blessed with the height of an average NBA player that a lot of women are looking for in men.

Before, I didn’t really mind that I’m only 5 feet and 5 inches. However, it didn’t take long before I finally realized that my small height is actually a big problem for a guy who’s on a dating status.

Its unfavorable impact most especially on my social life became apparent the moment I noticed that none of my dates turned into something more serious.

Every single date I had in the past did not lead to a second date — it’s clear that none of the women I met with wanted to date me again because they never replied to my messages or took my calls.

And I know very well the reason for this: I am too short.

Some of the women I dated were a few inches taller than me. It made me feel awkward but I’m sure it made them feel more awkward, and perhaps even frustrated.

Every single date I had made me feel more and more embarrassed, and right now I have very little to no confidence to give dating another try.

There are times when I felt my date saw me and went home immediately upon realizing I’m not a tall guy in person.

It’s unfair because I have so many nice things to offer — my friends always tell me that I am smart and have a wonderful sense of humor. Women dig those traits, don’t they?

I must confess that I did try to do some really sneaky things just to give my dating life a boost. I couldn’t help it because I was so desperate!

For instance, I tried a couple of times to lie about my height. Instead of putting 5 feet 5 inches on my online dating profile, I said that I was 5 feet and 10 inches tall.

As you might suspect, it led to disastrous results each time — seeing the frustration on the faces of my dates upon seeing me in the flesh made me feel even shorter as well as less confident and attractive!

Needless to say, I need help. My ego in shambles is telling me to give up dating completely, but I definitely don’t want to grow old alone. What should I do in order to have an amazing dating life?


Short Guy

Hello, Short Guy!

Thank you for pouring your heart out on the letter that you sent to me.

It’s not really that easy for a man to admit to some of his shortcomings, such as being short in stature and not getting dates.

Because of your letter, it’s apparent that you have honesty in you — women love men who are honest, don’t they?

Especially in a long-term relationship, honesty is the best policy. Because of your honesty, you are not going to have a hard time having a relationship that can last for so many years to come or even a lifetime!

However, there’s a problem that’s keeping that from happening: you have no partner.

Finding the right partner is, of course, easier if you are able to date women. Through this, you will be able to find one that you share a lot of common things with.

But due to the fact that you feel that you are too short to date, you may not be able to come across a woman that you could spend the rest of your life with happily.

Worry not because it’s not too late — you can find the perfect woman for you. Of course, in order for this to happen, you will have to go back to dating!

You may find this advice of mine hard to follow because of your damaged ego and diminished confidence. But if you would like to find Miss Right and marry her someday, then you have no other choice but to start dating once again.

This time around, however, you should do it right. Meaning to say, you should avoid some of the mistakes you committed before, especially if you want your date to see the nicest things in you.

Just like what you said in your letter, you are a smart and funny person according to your friends — let your date see that!

Here are some pieces of advice that I would like to give to you:

State nothing but the truth

Go to your online dating sites and remove from your profile anything that’s a huge lie, including most especially your height.

Believe it or not, there are women out there who do not care about the height of men.

Stating lies on your online dating profile won’t do you any good — just check out this “Lying About Height on Dating Apps” article.

Forget that height is important

While it’s true that some women love men who are tall, there are also women who don’t mind being with men having the same height or even shorter.

Just take a look at Nicole Kidman — she married singer Keith Urban who is shorter than her!

All you have to do is log on the web and search for celebrity couples in which the women are taller than the men. You’ll definitely be surprised!

Highlight your best features

Do you know why some tall women fall in love with short men?

It’s because they see some amazing things in them even though they’re not tall. This is why you should identify your positive features and nurture them.

Some women love men who can make them laugh, while others love men who can listen to them.

Oftentimes, being yourself is more than enough for a woman to see the best in you.

Be confident

If there’s one trait in men that a lot of women cannot stand, it’s having very little to no self-confidence.

Needless to say, it’s of utmost importance for you to feel confident.

Believe it or not, having confidence allows you to reap success, such as when finding the right woman for you.

It’s better to be a short man who has self-confidence than be a tall man who does not have any of it.

Maintain good posture

Here’s one simple way to boost your confidence: maintain proper posture!

No matter if you are sitting down or standing up, make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are pulled backward, and your chin is parallel to the floor.

Having superb posture will not only make you feel confident but also make you look powerful and even taller — women will find you so irresistible!

Date short women

Apparently, in the past, being shorter than your date did not work.

That is why you should make sure that your subsequent dates will be shorter than you.

Even if you’re just 5 feet and 5 inches tall, your height will always remain impressive for a short woman.

I am working on an article called “Top Dating Sites for Short People” that can help you get started (Coming soon).

As you can see, Short Guy, there is really no need for you to turn your back on dating completely. That’s because there are so many things that you can do to have a healthy and prolific dating life!

Follow the very simple tips I shared above, and you’re golden — you will realize that you are never too short to date.

Have a blast finding Miss Right!

What’s Next?

If you are looking for my story and want to know how I got taller, I recommend checking the my article:

How I Grew 3 Inches Taller

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Hi, I am Greg. In 6 months I was able to grow by 3 inches. I was 5″7', and now I am 5″10′!

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